It has been a pleasure and a relief to meet you to discuss my funeral wishes with
you.  It has been so much easier to talk about the details with you than with my daughter – however close we may feel.  And yet, on the day, the details matter, and will help the funeral go smoothly and with dignity.  My dearest wish is to cause my daughter as little distress and worry as possible.
I could not wish for anybody better than you to deal with the practical and necessary details regarding my bodily remains.  It is reassuring to know that people like you – and your family – are there when needed the most.