Last Wishes Funerals

INDEPENDENT FAMILY FUNERAL SERVICE

Serving York & Surrounding areas

Funeral Planning

Many people are planning their own funerals these days.

Some people make a plan because they want to know their funeral is budgeted for and some because they want to have their last wishes respected.* Others plan their funeral because they like the thought of a less traditional send-off, or they have very specific ideas about what they want. Whatever your reason, making a plan will put your mind at rest, and can really help loved ones to respect your wishes when the time comes.

Rather than overwhelm you with information here, we prefer to get to know something about you over a cup of tea and make our suggestions accordingly. Most people are pleasantly surprised at the range of choices there are today. As we chat, more ideas will come up and an outline of your last wishes will start to take shape.

At that point, you may want to take a few days to mull things over, visit some burial sites or crematoria, consider the choice of celebrants, music, and other elements. If that’s the case, we will finalise your wishes when you are ready, and then give you an estimate based on current costs

Things to consider

*Please note: Your funeral plan is not a legally binding document, so to ensure that your wishes are carried out, you’ll need to make a Will and keep it updated as your circumstances change. We also encourage you to choose your executor with care, as they have the last word should any dispute arise over your funeral arrangements. If you update your plan, remember to make sure your copy is kept with your Will – and that everyone who needs to know has the latest version.

Direct Cremations

These services are not solely provided by well-funded large corporations advertising nationally; funeral directors also offer them, often at a lower cost but with the same level of care for grieving families.

Direct cremations can indeed fulfil a practical purpose for those who prefer a simple farewell. However, it’s important to consider the needs of the bereaved, as funerals serve as a means of support and closure for them.

When using services from larger companies, the deceased is typically collected and the ashes returned after about a week. However, it’s common for these ashes to be delivered by a third-party courier, potentially leading to inadvertent mishandling, such as leaving them unattended on a doorstep. The delivery companies/drivers are often unaware of the package’s contents.

While a family may respect the wishes of the deceased for a direct cremation, they may later choose to organise a gathering of family and friends. Such gatherings are crucial for healing and finding closure after the loss of a loved one.

Celebrants

In many aspects of life, there exists a spectrum when it comes to celebrants. At one end there are religious ministers, whose roles are self-explanatory. At the opposite end, there are Humanists who maintain the belief that once life ends, there is nothing beyond.

However, in our experience, the majority of families we encounter possess some form of spirituality, for various reasons. Celebrants are available to accommodate these beliefs, tailoring services to include elements that resonate with the family’s spiritual preferences. This could encompass hymns, prayers, or other rituals deemed appropriate.

While some individuals may not identify as religious, certain prayers or hymns might hold special significance from childhood or other significant life events.